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I got into an argument with my daughters father who I as married to for 3 months before we had to flee our home when she was 5 days old. We are separated for 7 months now, Doing counseling but don’t know if we will live together ever again. If you are reading this and are a single parent in Singapore, my advice is that you don’t need to view being a single parent as the end of the world; far from it! Do get a part-time job if you can so you will have financial independence and eventually be able to save some money for rainy days. It’s important to show our children that we can be capable regardless of being single. My daughter has been my biggest teacher and has taught me far more lessons than I could ever teach her!” Rebecca’s story Some single parents have support from family and friends which is invaluable and very much needed to make life that little bit easier. However, we do hear from many parents who are bringing up children alone, without any family or friends support network. If this is the case, there are organisations such as Gingerbreadwhich may be able to help you further and give you much needed support, please take a look at our useful links sectionfor more organisations that can help. Financial support for single parents

This is call for unity for gender equality, for race equality, and for just being a decent person. When you own your life and family and relationship status (because this is a conversation about STATUS) with acceptance instead of shame, you elevate all single moms, all families — and women everywhere. In other words, as above, unless you've already made a Tax Credit claim for one of the options, you can't make a new one.

I am challenging the white women who go out of their way to distance themselves from calling themselves a “single mother.” Raising children as a single parent is a challenge, no matter where you are in the world. We all know that motherhood changes everything, but coping with a relationship breakdown brings a whole new set of hurdles on the road to finding your independence and strength as a single mum, and finding the best situation for your child. Where do single parents in Singapore get advice? How do they cope practically and emotionally? What support is available? And how do you find your support network if grandparents, aunties, uncles and family friends are not around to help? Here, three mums who are single parents in Singapore, share some advice. Advice for single parents in Singapore Meet the mums: Laura, Cheryl and Rebecca. Meet Laura Try to see things through the eyes of your son and his spouse. While you may not know where you fit into your son's new life, he may feel the same way. Open communication can clarify your role as a mother-in-law and help both of you find a way forward that everyone is happy with. Instead, look for activities you can do with your children. Or ways to make a positive family in this new world you are in – a single parent family.

Solo moms say that they have no co-parent at all. They are solo moms by choice, or their kids’ other parent is otherwise not at all in the picture. But then I began to realise I had total control over everything in my house now. All this control was both what I’d hope for and overwhelming. Several women portrayed their ‘triumph over adversity’ in their stories, reflecting the individual self-responsibility expected in current neoliberal times: "It has made me resilient and just getting on with things, I don’t need to rely on people to sort things out, you just sort it out yourself". Make a list of 50 things you enjoy doing. It can simple things: crafting, taking a bath, a hot shower, reading, walking the dog, sitting outside while you have a hot drink etc. Keep this list somewhere you can see it every day. On forums and in casual conversation, I hear people (usually men – men who pay lots of child support) grumble about women (usually their exes) who define themselves as single moms. “They have no right to say that — I pay for her manicures and weekends in Cancun with her 26-year-old personal trainer boyfriend!” is the usual gripe.

Find a routine that works for you. Your routine as a single parent family is going to be different than all the traditional family advice you see. You have a completely different schedule which most likely revolves around your ex, a custody schedule and possibly even finding time to see other people. The sooner you accept this, the easier it’ll be for you. As for everything else, I was now in charge of: the house, money, school, etc., if I didn’t have a solid plan, things wouldn’t get done. The women were highly aware of the stereotypes and often felt ashamed – even where they were able to celebrate achievements in their parenting, work and education, it could be difficult to escape these feelings: Natasha* said that "One day I was this respectable married woman with children and the next day it kind of felt that I was kind of on the bottom of the social pile." Becoming a single mum